Marriage is work plain and simple the wedding is for one day the marriage is for the rest of your life. I get compliments of how my husband and I get a long so well. I say praise the Lord we got through the first 11 1/2 years without killing one another. Because that is honestly how long it took before both of us reach acceptance of things that could not be changed about one another. We learned to love one another and treat each other right. Patience is not granted it is earned.
Marriage takes prudence, patience and lots of prayer.
The ONLY reason our marriage is as strong and vibrant as it is is not because we are so great and wonderful because we are not. the main reasons why are marriage is thriving is because Gods grace is in our lives and that Jesus is the center of our marriage. Because apart from Him we cannot do anything John 15:5.
I got this in an e-mail and it truly sums up a good lasting love. True love is neither romantic or physical true love is the acceptance of what was, what is, what is to be and what is not to be.
Shawn (and I have my husbands OK to post this because it is of personal nature) in some ways were very immature when we got married and had very high and at times unrealistic expectations of what we expected of one another and when we did not meet the expectations we got pissy/ annoyed and mad at one another.
There comes a time in every ones marriage where true love and faith are put through the test ( see my previous blog on trials) and there were times we fell short of the glory of God. In think the turning point in our live was in 2006 when Shawn and I were having communion and Shawn would not partake unless he talked to me He leaned over and put his arm around me and said I am sorry for being so hard on you. When Shawn told me he was addressed for being a deacon of our church I bluntly told him charity begins at home and walked away.
I also repented for expecting Shawn to be perfect and there were times I was resentful because it took two incomes and I wanted to be "taken care of" like my mom and stay home.
Shawn and I will be married 15 years in October of this year and we will know each other 19 years this September and moving to AZ was the best thing next to accepting the Lord Jesus into our hearts and getting married to each other. I was very emotionally attached to my mom and older sister and moving away Shawn and I have grown closer to Christ and have grown closer to one another and we have become our own family and it has been a wonderful thing to see God at word in our lives. Someone said you are lucky you are married and I lovingly told that person it is not luck it is hard work to be married, in some ways it is like a full time job, but anything of value or worth any thing does not come easy or cheap. Like my mom in law said anything worth having is worth working for. Be encouraged and God bless you e4g
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- encourager4god
- First off I would be nothing without Jesus Christ see John 15:5. He is my everything and my all in all. Secondly I am married to a very speical man who wants to serve the Lord with all of his heart, the gift is not so much being married although that is awesome but knowing we have a Saviour we can come to at all times for all things that we go through in our lives. We relocated from New York in January of 2007 and the Lord has been so good to us when you see this blog please keep me in prayer for the right job that the Lord wants me to have. I thank the Lord for the finished work of Jesus Christ dying on the cross for our sins so we can be saved.
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